Staying Committed

It’s funny simply how much my point of view changed when I had my 44th birthday this past year. I viewed the milestone as the possibility for a brand new beginning and to do things I’ve dreamed of doing. Perhaps expand on the things I already enjoy. There’s also the typically things everyone looks for – health, success at work, time with friends and family….. One of the things I dreamed of was going to Italy for my first time for 2 weeks!

Time came and I found myself on the beaches of Italy! I was there with friends and was happy but deeply sad as well. Part of me was explicitly embarrassed every time I found myself on the beach, surrounded by these gorgeous women who were taller, slimmer and even seemed more confident than me.

Though I attended yoga on and off in the past, never really committed to it for the long term. Upon returning from my trip, I went back my yoga class and signed up for a 30 day challenge. That turned into the 60 day challenged. At first I was having difficulty and thought I wouldn’t even be able to complete the initial 30 day challenge, but time came and I went on towards the 60, then 100 day challenge.

It wasn’t easy all the way through. I had accumulated years of bad habits. Unhealthy eating. Not going to the gyme or classes regularly. Sleeping late. You name it.

Many times during class, I found it difficult to complete the 60 minutes. I needed breaks often. To my surprised I did meet the 30 day challenge for my class and I couldn’t be happier. I am going regularly and I’m currently at my 127th day challenge!!!

I’ve lost a lot of weight, about 39 pounds. Dropped several dress sizes and feel just as beautiful and confident as those women I envied on my trip. Actually I even feel more powerful and mentally aware.

I’m planning on continuing my classes and making sure not to fall back into bad habits or destructive behavior. There are days that are more difficult than others, especially now that I am dating again and in the process of moving but I have to tell myself that these are just excuses and I have to remain committed to my goals.

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Mad Joe

I was married for 18 years to my beautiful wife. Due to the nature of her work, she was working overseas for almost a year in Japan and rarely saw her. This was a difficult time as I was laid off during this year, and had a close family member pass away unexpectedly as well.

While in Japan, the started taking yoga classes on weekends when she couldn’t fly back home. It started as a company retreat, then turned into almost a weekly event for her as it helped her with stress and the difficulty of being away. Meanwhile, things at home weren’t so great. I became depressed from life, and felt the relationship I had with my wife becoming distant.

About 10 months into this, she flew back home and was going to the local yoga studio for a class when she dragged me along. At first I was a bit reluctant to go. I always thought of it as something women just did on their off time, like pilates or any other workout. I really didn’t know too much and wasn’t expecting much.

At this point in my life I was drinking and smoking a lot every day. I was at the pub each night and found motivation to do anything very difficult.

When I went to the class, I was at first surprised that there were other men in there. Not just any guy, but older, out of shape guys I would see at the pub. That first class didn’t go too well for me as I was out of shape and even had a hard time with stretching – the most stretching I did before this was reaching for my beer!

Well many months later, my wife is now reassigned back home. We still attend yoga together and it has brought us together and I would like to think that we are both generally happy. I’ve lost weight, look better and feel good.

During the year she away, we used to argue nonstop about every little thing, but even that has seemed to stop. Although I don’t do yoga as much as my wife, I find myself calmer and try to find happiness within myself.

Yoga may not be for everyone, but I think it teaches us to look at things in a different way and how. I was able to detach myself from my drinking and smoking. Was generally happier overall and my closeness with my wife has improved greatly.

Whether it was pure luck, coincidence or whatever, yoga came at a perfect time for me.


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Namaste.

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